How Childhood Trauma Shows Up in Your Relationships

To break cycles, you have to look at yourself and start asking questions.  This self-inquiry is often what leads cycle breakers to therapy. Why am I like this?  Why can’t I just get over this?  Why can’t I just be kind to myself and be happy?  Why is it SO hard to set boundaries? The answer often lies in the trauma they experienced in their childhoods.  When they start learning how childhood trauma impacted the way they developed and informed certain parts of their personality, it can be jarring.  

Being overly empathetic and dropping everything you are doing because someone is hurt or angry could be rooted in trauma.  People pleasing and denying your own needs for the sake of meeting someone else’s could be rooted in trauma.  Feeling extreme guilt when you set a boundary or simply accepting that you have no control when someone doesn’t respect your boundary could be rooted in trauma. 

There are many ways your childhood experiences in your family impact the way you show up as an adult. It impacts your relationships with others and your relationship with yourself. Getting the right kind of support through counseling means not only that you have a guide to help you through this, but that you don’t have to walk through it alone.  When my clients first come to me, they’ve done a lot of work on their own already, but they keep getting stuck.  They are ready to get unstuck and truly do the work of breaking cycles.

Learn more about cycle breaking here.

Hanna Woody is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor in Asheville, North Carolina.  She has over 12 years of professional counseling experience and specializes in breaking cycles of intergenerational trauma, childhood trauma, and the Enneagram.  Certified in the Embodiment Tradition, she has over 150 hours of training and teaching experience.  Hanna is in private practice and provides online mental health therapy, Enneagram coaching, and Enneagram training.

Therapy in Asheville, Raleigh, Charlotte, Winston-Salem, Greensboro and all North Carolina regions. 

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